Finding Love and Romance
Love and romance go together and it is difficult for romance to exist without love. All people want love and romance together. The main reason for this is companionship. We all have a need to be appreciated in a deeper way. For people to be intimate with us they show romance and the process of life continues. When you find yourself without love, you are bound to find it hard to cope with life. You will put on a strong face while deep inside you are yearning for love. Even if you have been through a rough experience with love, you will still find yourself wishing for it. It is not time to hate yourself for this; it is time to prepare yourself for the love that you deserve. First, it is vital to state that the world is full of wonderful people who are worth loving; just like you. Your heart is filled with affection that is just waiting for that special girl or boy. Therefore, do not be deceived, you have a person meant just for you; somewhere.
This is the kind of attitude to have. There are people who do not feel like there is someone for them and, this attitude can only be confirmed mainly because of their own making. It is dangerous to have the wrong attitude about love; it might cost you a lifetime of happiness. For you to find love and romance you can get busy to finding it but, the most important thing is to keep your mind open for love. You also need to keep your heart open for the prospects of love. Love and romance is not something you think about while receiving, it is something that you are glad to receive. Many people continue to harden their hearts and this will see your chances of finding love dwindle. In life, there are peak seasons where most people find romance. If you are concentrating on other things, your season might pass and, you might find it difficult to catch up. Observe the patterns in your life and the lives of other people and learn.
Sometimes, love and romance does not announce itself. You need to identify the opportunity. It is nothing mystical but, it is pretty mysterious. Destiny has been bringing people for a long time together; make sure you do not miss it. Going through matchmakers is also essential; if you are determined to find love. Here, it does not matter what age you are; you will find the love you are looking for. In today’s modern world, there are so many things that will ensure that you date and find love in an easy manner; take advantage of the tools. One of the tools is information like this. Empower yourself now for a better tomorrow. Today people are rushing into things just to end up disappointed. Love is never in a rush and, you will be sure about it when it comes. Enjoy your journey looking for love; you will find it.
Francis Githinji
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January 31st, 2010 at 3:52 am
Do your mental health problems stop you from finding love/romance?
I’m bipolar and a recovering self-harmer. I’m incredibly shy (unless I’m manic).
Sometimes, I feel like nobody will ever love me, and that I don’t deserve to have them love me anyway. Does anybody else feel the same?
January 31st, 2010 at 8:54 am
I think it certainly could cause problems and prevent love/romance in some cases.
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January 31st, 2010 at 8:56 am
no i dont beleave that will stop love from finding you , it just takes time some times , if a person really loves you they will see you for you and not your problems i beleave there is some one out there for everyone dont just sit around waiting him to find you go out with friend and have fun it will happen when the time is right …. best of luck
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January 31st, 2010 at 8:58 am
No, they don’t like you said especially when your Manic! I just find its hard to stay in a relationship but finally I found someone that is sticking by me good or bad!
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:00 am
I know where you are coming from although I never self harmed par se. I have lost love because of my condition but with therapy and medication I have improved greatly, to the point where I am no longer trapped in my own self. I have a partner now and I am reasonably content as I have a beautiful daughter. You must gain confidence and find a love if you want one, of course they will love you back, if you are open and honest with them. I wish you luck and peace.
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:02 am
All the time. i suffer from depression and anxiety and a lot of the time, i withdraw from people because I feel they don’t act like they value me as much as other people. The putdowns I received at school and college from guysleft me with low self-esteem and depression. I feel I’mnot good enough and that i’ll never find love. And so far, I’ve been right.
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:04 am
well for a start. don’t say you don’t deserved to be LOVED. because you do. you are HUMAN. EVERY BODY AS A CROSS TO BEAR. so try and stop putting yourself down. try counselling. they will help you in leading a useful life. with no doubt you deserve. good luck.
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:06 am
Dear laurara…
I was drawn to your question because it raises many issues that I have wrestled with and pondered. I am not bipolar, but I "know", (speaking as one who empathizes with people with the disorder), Manic-Depression creates chaos and havoc in a person’s life. One feels that you are not in control of your own mind, a very frightening emotional place to be.
Also, I am not a shy person, but I have worked with shy people, and respect the fact that it is a temperment, that is to say, an inborn trait. Terry Brazelton, the great pediatrician at Havard Medical School thinks that temperment is evident from birth.
Neither Manic-Depression nor shyness has to be a handicap, although bipolar illness is stigmatized, even by mental health professionals, who should know better. Manic-Depression, if not, addressed will rob you of a lot of healthy, satisfying experiences, and love is certainly one of the most imortant experiences we all can have. That I can say personally. However, I emphasize, "if not addressed". There is no reason not to be hopeful about your potential prospects for being loved, falling in love, or simply loving. I am not talking about love as a manic state, which can be hard to distinguish from "falling in love," a state of mind where one (rightly) feels, great, on top of the world, in a kind of ecstatsy over the lucky object of your affections, (hopefully, it is mutaul). The test that distinguishes love from a pathological elavated state (mania, or hypomania) is that lovers, as a rule do not harm themselves, or others. Lovers, as the poets know, while in love, find this world to be a wonderful place. A lover may buy an expense gift to express his/her deep joy for his/her partner, but he/she will not go on a shopping binge with no other object than to get a thrill from purchasing things, (often needless purchaces).
Now, your fear that no one will love you is groundless. I am sure you are loveable, and capable of love. There is no mental disorder that robs us of the capacity to love another. None. There is no reason to believe that you will "never" be loved. I bet there is some wonderful person out there waiting for you, and will bath you in love and affection, and attention. The problem for people like yourself is not finding a great partner, It is holding on to one’s partner. I mean once the realtionship starts the ups and downs that normally happen in a relationships are exaggerated by one’s mood fluctuations. Your partner becomes puzzled, then confused, then frustrated, and finally exasperated in his/her efforts to please, sooth, and calm down the partner with moods fluctuations.
Hence, address your mood fluctuations. Address your self harming tendencies. It is frightening for another person to witness the person you love cutting his or herself, (or worse).
Don’t underestimate yourself. Whether shy, or slightly kooky, you may be a great package for someone, even someone you know. Drop the "I am undeserving" conviction. It doesn’i help at all.
And finally, yes. Plently of people share your challenges, and have great lives, and wonderful partners, and are loved.
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:08 am
no been happily with some one for 4 years now its great and have big time mental problems
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:10 am
Yes I do.
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January 31st, 2010 at 9:12 am
it is certainly true that for every jack there is a Jill,mental health problems do not preclude you from finding love and romance,why should it?,its not as if you wear a notice around your neck telling the world is it,you have done well to get this far because a lot of self-harmer’s never do so well done you,when love comes you will know and the rest will become history,your already thinking in a positive manner so your focus is good,keep it up girl,it can only get better.
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3 years working on a mental health unit.
January 31st, 2010 at 9:14 am
I am bipolar and somehow have managed to maintain my relationship for 8 years. We have 3 children and i have been hospitalised several times. But he is soooo undertanding and is there for me. He doesnt understand my illness but he just puts up with it. He never throws anything back in my face and makes sure i take my meds. Im really lucky to have him but i dont rely on him.
He says im different and lifeis never boring. You’ll find someone one day. Dont give up. xxxxxx
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